Wholeness: Embodying the Four Inner Energies of Feminine and Masculine as Woman

As a woman, I’ve sat down and done a lot of inner work. It’s during the times when I am only with myself that I get to listen from within. I watch myself respond, react, and take action on what comes my way. The thing is, when you spend so much time with yourself, you get to express freely—out of judgment and limiting beliefs that you are supposed to act only in certain ways as a woman, lady, or girl—all because society tells us to.

They would usually say, “Oh, you should be like this, like that.”

Well, NO. Be whatever you want to be. Be yourself.

Since then, I have come to know intimately the energies that lie within us—within me—and how to leverage them wisely: to be discerning, protective, and supportive of my own growth.

Four core energies—two feminine and two masculine. Forces that live in all of us. They are not roles to play or traits to perform. Each has both a shadow and a light to express. Learning how to use or embody them didn’t just help me understand myself more; it guided me in how to shift, to deepen, and to stop doubting myself—if I was being ‘too much’ or ‘not enough’ or ‘too sensitive’ or ‘too assertive.’

Why? Because I’m moving through different energies depending on the situation, the need, and the truth of that moment.

The Light Feminine is the energy of softness, emotional presence, and receiving. Shows up when I’m in the present, at peace, and not trying to force anything into place. Is not chasing but attracting and nurturing. Is expressive, gentle, kind, and graceful. Is playful, sensual, and emotionally available. A side that forgives with a gentle heart and finds beauty in small moments. It’s when I slow down to enjoy the moment, be present, and attuned—to feel deeply and not suppress it. A part of me that listens deeply, moves intuitively, and trusts without needing proof. Many of us were taught that softness is equivalent to weakness. But the truth is, this ability to surrender and submit — not out of fear, but from choice — is rooted in deep inner strength.

In daily life, it’s when I speak gently and listen with care and no judgments. When I allow myself to be pursued and loved, to receive support and help. It’s when I create a warm atmosphere and listen with empathy. It's n my laughter, my softness with children and animals. When I respond instead of chase and remain present in the moment. When I receive from my life, allowing things to come to me—trusting that I am enough.

The Dark Feminine is the force of transformation and deep intuition. She’s the part that doesn’t beg to be understood. She withdraws, observes a lot, and doesn’t tolerate. It’s all about setting boundaries without over-explaining. Doesn’t people-please and highly protects her energy because she is not for everyone. Walks away silently because her worth is louder. Retreats, rests, recharges, and takes care of herself without permission. Detaches with grace and is unapologetic. Senses BS from a distance and cannot be manipulated. Doesn’t perform and doesn’t have to be nice to be true. Burns through what no longer serves and gives birth to something truer and more aligned with her. She just is.

In real life, it’s when I don’t tolerate disrespect and mind games. When I don’t hesitate to walk away without explaining myself. It’s when I let my anger or sadness move through me—instead of bottling it up or faking calmness, I embrace it all. It’s when I don’t force being understood. Instead of over-explaining, I let them believe what they want. And when I’m intuitive and confronting my shadows. When I don’t avoid inner work—instead, I reflect, question, and go deep, even if it’s uncomfortable, because that’s when I get all the wisdom.

The Light Masculine is structure, clarity, and direction—the stable leader. This energy activates when I set goals with integrity and honor them. Appears in me when I create systems, show up with purpose and intent, or make decisions from grounded logic. It is stabilizing. Holds space for my feminine to THRIVE—without needing to control her. This energy is not forceful, but anchored and responsible. Grounded, dependable, and focused—the one that shows up with a plan, leads with calm authority, and gets things done without chaos. My inner leader, the builder, the protector of my peace and vision.

In real life, it’s when I organize my work, my projects, my routine with discipline. When I take charge of a team with clear vision. The safe frame my feminine flows within.

The Dark Masculine is the inner protector and destroyer of what no longer serves. Assertive, bold, and intimidating when necessary—never flinching in the face of discomfort. The side of me that fights for boundaries, power, respect, and calls out BS.

Sharp, direct, and doesn’t ask—he decides.

In real life, it’s when I stand my ground. Times when I shut down manipulation and don’t sugarcoat my truth.

Recognizing these energies didn’t change me—it was EMBODYING them when life called for them. I stopped labeling myself by who I thought I should be, and started allowing these forces to move through me. I now live a little softer, a little sharper, and a lot more whole. Not balanced every day, but at least, finally integrated.

What about you? How do you embody these?